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How much are you willing to pay for your porn use? Your marriage? Your career? Your reputation? Your ministry? Your children-even your freedom?

Scroll down to read some of the posts that others struggling with internet porn have written.....

A professional Society of Divorce Lawyers recently reported that use of internet pornography had surpassed financial problems as being the fastest growing cause of divorce in America.

  Go to our discussion site and see others accounts and add your own stories.

"I was just re-reading my first post and I feel it gives the impression I am not taking this serious and that I think it's going to be a piece of cake. If I gave that impression I am so sorry. I have tried to fight this battle by myself and kept praying asking God to help me, but down deep I'm not sure I really wanted his help because I was so caught up in it all. It was hidden and no one knew so who was I hurting or at least that was my thought pattern. Well, I began to notice that after God, my wife was the first one I was hurting and then I started noticing how I was putting my wife, kids and grand kids off so I could be alone so I could get on the internet. They would want me to go places and do things and I would say no so I could be at home alone. Then I caught myself trying to find places for them to go to get them out of the house so I could be alone. I know your thinking the same thing I am, what a low life dog. I have a wonderful wife that would do anything for me and a great family. They would not believe that I was caught up in this. They so don't deserve this.

I finally worked up enough courage to tell my friend who is my accountability partner. I knew when I told him the friendship would be over, but that guy has the love of Jesus in his heart. He never once judged me, just encouraged me that with God's help, we would work through this. I know I have to tell my wife, but right now is just not the time. I know that sounds awful, but I just can't at this point.

So here I am, my first day with the Wisechoice filters and someone that knows the truth about me and I am scared to death. Part of me is so relieved knowing that I don't have access anymore, but the other part of me is scared to death of how far I might go to regain access. I have joined a Men's study group at our church and we are doing the Seeking Him study. I'm hoping that will help me to keep myself more focused.

Anyway, if any of you are not too disgusted with me, I would love to hear any helpful tips or hints on how to get through this. I know all hope comes from God, but right now I'm feeling pretty hopeless.

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Job and family lost

"Three years ago I spent over 1000 hours on internet pornography. One thousand hours works out to be forty- one complete 24 hour days of internet porn use! I was asked by one counselor,  " what happened with your family?"   "I lost it,"

"What about your job?"...." I lost it too......I've lost everything..

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I have struggled with porn for about 25 years. I have been married for the last eight. Thank God for this forum!

I struggled with my morale at work because during some idle time, I would use the Internet at work for browsing non-work related things. Not porn, the filter here is pretty high. Even now, for example, I am waiting for a meeting to start and instead of doing work related items, here I am.

So to prevent me from doing personal browsing, which is really helpful for things around the house, etc., I got a DSL line for home use. I did this under the condition with my wife that only she has access. When I spoke with the DSL provider, they assured me that they supported password access.

I insisted that the password access be at the modem level. I am a computer engineer and have defeated filtering services before. If I was to have access to some Internet access, I can usually get to porn. My wife and I discovered, by accident, that the modem password as a way to restrict access, was not successful. Either was the DSL provider provided software. So we were ready to try another service and my wife picked WiseChoice Internet Filtering.

Another true story from our forum

Hello to any of you who are struggling with sexual addiction. If you are reading this, you are pretty likely to be struggling with porn so stop kidding yourself and listen up. I started getting into porn and phone sex about 10 years ago because I was a very shy guy with women. I had a very high sex drive and masturbation was my drug, litter ally. For a while, I thought I was normal and I just loved sex so I thought there was no danger in the road I was going down. I continued my habit of masturbation to porn, phone sex, and online chatting all the way up until about a month ago when I found WiseChoice. I will say that I honestly do not work for WiseChoice, I don't have any reason to tell you this other than to tell you that this tool WILL HELP YOU. It will help you by FORCING you to stop viewing porn online. I have found that through the past 10 years of my addiction (I almost hate saying addiction because it implies that I was not choosing my behavior but really, it is an addiction because an addiction is really a STRONG habit that one gets caught up in) so anyway, I have hidden it from everyone and I have been living in a hell of fantasy. I would fantasize when meeting pretty girls, seeing girls, or even at work under stress, I would use masturbation as my drug. I HATED it. I was very depressed, I was always full of anxiety, I just felt tons of shame but I covered it up very well. I have to think though that people around me kind of knew I was struggling with something. Anyway, I would go through cycles where I would get so low that I would reach for help. I would look online for psychology tips to stop, I even looked at internet filters but they all had passwords on them so they would not work if I knew the password, obviously. I probably attempted to stop every 6 months or so but I never could because I was soooo tempted to masturbate when I was feeling down or stressed out. It was a bad cycle I was caught in. I then found WiseChoice.Net. I honestly could not believe it was available when I discovered it because I knew it would work. The reason why is because, I can't just type a password in to bypass it. I would have to actually call in and cancel my service to look at porn, which number one, would be embarrassing to me, and number two, they would probably talk me out of cancelling because they understand my problem. The owner of the company developed this because he dealt with the same issue!!! Read his story if you have not yet done so. I know I am writing a lot here but I really want you who is reading this right now to know, that you can not just stop looking at porn and chatting online by your will power alone. You need to be FORCED to stop.

The owner of this company is blessing us by not ripping us off for our addiction. 49.95 bucks a year is such an awesome price for what this will do in your life) you can be helped. You have to want help though so if you do, order this service and you will be glad you did. For those of you who know computers, you can't stop this service from running. I have already tried. I have shut down the service in the task manager and guess what, it pops back up. It really locks you down which makes you feel soooo good that you can't go back when you decide to get help. I subscribed about 2 or 3 weeks ago and I already feel less shame, more confidence and I feel strong so....STOP WASTING YOUR LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS

My story is similar to many of yours. I was first exposed in the 80's with "bootleg" vids my friends and I would share. These never really did much for me at the time. I was also a late bloomer in terms of my first sexual experience. It was in my senior year of college with one of my good friends I felt safe with. I did not masturbate until after I had started having sex. This is when I actually started purchasing videos. I would keep at least a few in my apartment. The frequency of my masturbation then increased. With the onset of internet porn things really began to get out of control.

Here I was, a single male in my 20's. I had my own apartment and the privacy to do what I pleased. I did not have a steady girlfriend during these times. I would spend hours and hours in front of my computer checking porn. I would use my credit card to access these sites. It seemed relatively inexpensive at the time. Although I knew what I was doing was wrong, I justified it by telling myself this was much safer than going out and being promiscuous with several women.

The excitement of imagining myself with a different woman every night was contagious and addicting. I was still able to be involved in other relationships, but the internet porn was a very convenient "safety net."

Still in the midst of my porn viewing I became serious with a woman who ultimately became my future wife. She knew I looked at porn "occasionally." As she lived in another state than I did, she really had no idea as to the extent of my viewing porn.

Of course I wondered how things would change when we got married. I rationalized things by thinking once we lived together, we would be having sex regularly and this would curb my appetite for porn. For the first few months of our marriage this was in fact the case. We lived in another state. I had a new job. With the new atmosphere things were different for a while. I then made the mistake of responding to one of those email porn adds and I relapsed!!!

It seemed so wrong to me and so shamefully unnatural to still be craving porn with a beautiful wife beside me! As I began to listen to more and more Christian radio, I began to get more insight into my problem. It also opened my eyes to the fact that my situation is not unique at all!!

I could continue on and on, but I just thought I would at least throw this out as an intro to myself and my condition. I am so thankful for this opportunity to share my thoughts with others in similar situations. I look forward to extending this discussion with other brothers and sisters in Christ.

The Effects of Pornography

This A new study done by Patrick F. Fagan examines the effects of pornography on individuals, marriage, family and community. Fagan is Senior Fellow and Director of the Center for Research on Marriage and Religion at the Family Research Council. He specializes in examining the relationships among family, marriage, religion, community, and America 's social problems. This study is important for everyone to read as it demonstrates that it has damaging effects on individuals and families. In the summary Fagan explains,

Pornography is a visual representation of sexuality which distorts an individual's concept of the nature of conjugal relations. This, in turn, alters both sexual attitudes and behavior. It is a major threat to marriage, to family, to children and to individual happiness. In undermining marriage it is one of the factors in undermining social stability.

Social scientists, clinical psychologists, and biologists have begun to clarify some of the social and psychological effects, and neurologists are beginning to delineate the biological mechanisms through which pornography produces its powerful negative effects.

 Some of the findings inside the study include:

¦Pornography is addictive, and neuroscientists are beginning to map the biological substrate of this addiction.

¦Users tend to become desensitized to the type of pornography they use, become bored with it, and then seek more perverse forms of pornography.

¦Married men who are involved in pornography feel less satisfied with their conjugal relations and less emotionally attached to their wives. Wives notice and are upset by the difference.

¦Pornography use is a pathway to infidelity and divorce, and is frequently a major factor in these family disasters.

¦Among couples affected by one spouse's addiction, two-thirds experience a loss of interest in sexual intercourse.

¦Many adolescents who view pornography initially feel shame, diminished self-confidence, and sexual uncertainty, but these feelings quickly shift to unadulterated enjoyment with regular viewing.

¦The main defenses against pornography are close family life, a good marriage and good relations between parents and children, coupled with deliberate parental monitoring of Internet use. Traditionally, government has kept a tight lid on sexual traffic and businesses, but in matters of pornography that has waned almost completely, except where child pornography is concerned. Given the massive, deleterious individual, marital, family, and social effects of pornography, it is time for citizens, communities, and government to reconsider their laissez-faire approach.

You can (and should) download the study here, and then jump into the comments to talk. Is your church addressing the issue of pornography? Should it? How?

Do you ever wonder about those men who become internet stalkers or child porn users? How do they get this way?

In our city a prominent individual, church goer, married man with a good reputation is now in The Georgia State Penitentiary for "enticing minors". It is unthinkable..but when asked how he began this unspeakable practice he told us that he had started by watching internet porn. The porn sites then had links to child porn sites and chatrooms.....as he watched this material a character flaw was triggered that he had no idea was present. One thing led to another and then to another. The result is that he is in prison, his wife divorced him, his business closed.....if only he had protected himself.  "for those who have ears to ear then let them hear".

    It is estimated that over 50% of American  men  are accessing internet pornography regularly.

A leading men’s ministry had this startling report regarding internet pornography and the ministry. When an alter call was given for ministers to acknowledge un-confessed sin in their lives over 50% of those who responded identified internet pornography as the issue. In almost any part of America, we can read newspaper articles about ministers who have lost their churches and their credibility do to internet pornography. Not only ministers but businessmen are losing their jobs as they are discovered using Internet pornography..

              let's get real! If you have a porn issue read on!

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