thought I was porn proof "
me tell you how I got involved with this subject. I am happily
married, have my own business, and my kids are grown. I
have been a Christian for 24 years, been a missionary, home
school parent-the whole nine yards. I would have thought
that I was porn proof!
I got started with the Internet about 14 years ago the same
as most of us. I needed the net for my business and plus
it was simply fascinating. Along the way I was being bombarded
with emails and advertisements for Internet sex. We have
all seen them-hot teens! Girls girls girls!. I finally got
curious and clicked on one of the links and I was blown
away by the raw sexual material provided absolutely free.
Well, I can tell you that I got off that site as quickly
as I could! What if anybody saw that stuff on my computer
not to mention what my wife would think!
The next day I was back on the net and I was drawn to have
another look, so I did . Again I was shocked and angry.
The next day I was back again and again and again. You get
the picture....I suddenly was confronted with my own self.
What would happen to my reputation. What would happen to
my marriage, what would this say to my kids? The answer
was obvious. So what could I do- get off the Internet?
So I prayed and made deals with God which I almost immediately broke. I certainly couldn't go to my friends or my wife or pastor. After all porn use was clearly perverted and there was no telling what would happen if the word got out.
I would find myself staying at the office late with the door locked, lying to my wife about what I was doing (working late.....) Sometimes at home even getting out of bed late at night to go to the computer in the other room to gorge on some more porn. I knew I was in trouble but didn't know what to do. Finally I had a conversation with God that ended with :"if your eyeball offends you then pluck it out, if your hand offends you then cut it off. I took this to mean that I should get off the internet entirely.
the same day that I decided to get off the net, my web master
for my business site walked in and asked if I had ever heard
of internet filtering?(he didn't even know what
I was struggling with). He explained that filtering
could keep one out of porn sites. Unfortunately
at the time there were no filtered providers accessible
from my city. Since I couldn't get it, I decided to provide
it. The result was Wisechoice.net
If there ever was an example of "what the enemy meant for evil then God will turn to the good-this is it" He has given me a ministry to folks with porn issues and he has given me an income. Not only did I have to tell my wife (and she was VERY unhappy) But I have shared this story over the net, on radio and TV and in conferences both church related and secular.
If you are involved with porn then take hope, there is a way out and in getting out God may give you a new adventure like He did with me....
Ned Dominick- Founder, Wisechoice
that there are millions of others struggling to
control their porn use. To see their stories and
add your own go to the Wisechoice forum.
here for the forum
this mean that I am now "cured" of the desire
to access porn? Absolutely
not-however having a filter on my computer has
removed the constant onslaught of porn sites and removed
the easy temptation just to click and......Let's get real,
when people say they are struggling with something, in this
case internet porn, it means that they are doing it.
up to what is happening!
say that internet porn stimulates the same areas of the
brain as crack cocaine. They also say that the
three "A's" of internet porn make it even easier
to get into trouble. The first A is accessibility (anyone
with a computer and internet connection has access). The
second A is Affordability (as we all know you can surf to
millions of pornographic images for absolutely no cost.)
The third is Anonymity ( No one can see us. We lock ourselves
in the office or the back room, stay up late after our spouses
are in bed and spend hours gorging on porn). Does it sound
like I have been there?
let's get real, are we willing to lose our marriages or
jobs over this junk? Internet porn is now the leading
cause of divorce in America surpassing financial strain.
Take a look at our discussion site at http://discuss.wisechoice.net/
and see what others are going through
Please don't ignore or minimize the danger of internet
stories from our filtering users
One of our lady customers told me that she discovered
that her husband was into Internet porn when he
wouldn't’t visit her while she was in labor
in the hospital with her fourth child- it turned
out that he was back at the home gorging on Internet
pornography-their marriage was shattered.
Another customer told me that he spent 1000 hours on Internet
porn last year. That works out to forty 24 hour days- over
a month of Internet porn out of a year. It cost him his
marriage, his job and his position in the community.
local pastor and friend of mine, a good man and powerful
leader in the Christian community-had his ministry destroyed
after it was discovered that he had been accessing internet
People don't plan to get involved with internet pornography,
suddenly it is front of you and you are involved-that fast.
The only way to stay out of harm's way is to either stay
off the internet or to install filtering. I think Wisechoice
is the best available and I urge you to try our no risk
What will Internet Porn cost you?
Ned Dominick, Founder and President
Wisechoice Internet Services, Inc.
* If you would
be interested in having me come and talk to your group on
this delicate subject I would be more than happy to do so
at no fee.