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Wisechoice is the tool which can put an end to internet              pornography use in your family

No more porn in my House! 

Most male porn users have no idea of the devastation caused to their wives.

My wife was deeply hurt-feeling betrayed that I would want to look at another woman. My point of view was that "these women didn't mean anything-they're just pictures." How stupid could I get?

You are not alone:   So many women feel completely alone when they discover that their men are using porn. They don't know what to do or who they can talk to. The fact is that 50% of all men using the internet are accessing pornography. This means that half of the husbands of your friends are using porn too and those same wives are struggling with the same issue.

Many of our customers are wives who have drawn the line- No more porn in my home or in my marriage. They have taken a stand that either the porn goes or they would go. They have been the ones who put the filters on the computers and since the wives are the customers then our customer support will not remove the filter without the wives specific instructions. You can take charge! Wisechoice Internet Filter- to take charge of what internet content enters your home! Click here

Wisechoice filtering is incredibly accurate and customizable. For example it can be configured to provide access to clean YouTube
while blocking the pornographic material. It also can be configured so as to record all of the surfing history in a location that cannot be erased by the user. If you wish it can even be set up to text your phone or email you if the computer is attempting to access blocked material. It is really amazing.  

Protect your children at no extra charge: Not only can you use it to guard you marriage but you can have as many as five other configurations for your kids which can be set up to provide time limits for internet use, or even record their conversations in chatrooms or social networking sites. It is an incredible tool. It can save your family.

Here are some of the posts we have received from other women on our discussion board at www.wisechoice.net/discuss.

Hello,

I am glad I found this site tonight, I needed some support. My husband has been addicted to porn for as long as I can remember. We have been married for 8 years and the throughout our marriage he has looked at porn on the computer. I did not realize it until one night about 4 years ago.
After that first time I found out it went into this pattern, he would continue, the whole time lying to me about it, I would find out about it and it would just devestate me. Now, I know he is addicted, and will not stop until he gets some help. I don't check up on him anymore, I know he is doing it, the fact that he thinks I am stupid and will swallow his lame lies makes me angry. The fact that he chooses this over our marriage hurts, sometimes more than I can bear.
I spent a couple days in the hosptial and I know he was online seeking porn then. He would tell me he couldn't sleep because he was so worried about me, I had to turn away from him, I am not sure if I was more hurt or angry. He arrived at the hospital after 12 noon looking like he had not slept all night long (probably didn't). The next night he was so tired he was falling asleep behind the wheel while driving me home from the hospital, I asked him to pull over and I drove us home.
Where we stand now... I told him, like so many times before, we will NEVER be the couple he wants us (and I) to be until he gets some help for his addiction. He wants a happy, close, married couple, but this porn addiction always come between that. No matter what. Our sex life is practically non - existent.
I have learned I cant help him, not really, I can support him, but he has to want this, more than the porn, he has to want to be healthy, want our marriage, more than the porn, and then get some help. I find that half the time I am angry and half the time I am hurt, add a little numbness in there too.
Thank you for letting me vent.  To place a wall around your marriage and family click here for Wisechoice Internet filtering                       

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My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years and been married for 8months. Before we got married he told me that he was "looking" at porn sites but promised to stop. Unfortunately for my husband, I'm a computer geek. 2 weeks ago, I caught back looking at porn. Today, I found out that he spent $300-$700 a month on porn sites for many months. I got ahold of his email accounts and all porn sites he went to. I also got ahold of his credit card which he had been using to pay for his porn. Let me tell you, I have never been so angry in my life.

I feel very hurt and disrespected. I feel that he took advantage of me badly. I put this man in front of me. I paid off his bills over and over again. I paid for our wedding when we both decided we are going to pay for it together. And I'm still paying for it. He did not contribute one single penny to our wedding but he had the money for his porn. I worked so hard to buy our first home. How do you forgive? How do you trust again? Every part of my body is screaming for divorce.

He does admit that he has an addiction and have asked me to help him. He asked me to go to therapy with him to save our marriage. To be honest, I think I'm done. I do not want to go to any therapy. I really think this marriage is over. I keep thinking back during the planning stages of our wedding. I was running out of money and had to use my credit cards and he kept saying that he didn't have any money at all - looking at his credit cards statement, I know why now.

How do you move on? How do you really forgive? I look at him and he is a complete stranger. I'm living with a stranger.

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In late August I found out that my husband had been looking at porn again. I knew when we started dating that he had looked at it, but he said he would stop because he knew how I felt about it. I was okay with that answer since I never knew the addictive nature of it! We have now been together 5 years and married for 2 years. Through this time together I have seen things on our computer, but he said it was not him and that it had been put on his computer when he was surfing the net. He is a huge computer geek and is on the computer all the time! This last time we talked about it and he started to lie about it again till I named some of the sites he went to. He says he feels bad, but I do not think he really thought he cheated on me. He says he is no longer doing that, but after reading many posts on this site I have a hard time believing that! Since he is a "computer geek" I know he can hide things from me. I am trying to get up the nerve to ask him about putting the Wise Choice filter on our computer. His sex drive is so low when it comes to me that it makes me feel so bad! I love being with him, but it seems that once a week is okay for him. I waited till we got married to have sex and feel kind of cheated. I just think something is wrong when a 30 year old man does not want to have sex with his wife. I am by no means a super model, but have never had problems attracting guys. When I tell him that I am having a hard day and he asks why, he is in disbelief that I am still dealing with this and trying to heal. To make matters worse my parents are getting divorced after 30 years and my dad moved in with us till he gets into his new apartment on the 1st. I would appreciate any words of support of encouragement.

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Brokenhearted:

A few weeks ago i found out my boyfriend was looking at porn and i ended up confronting him and asking him why and he said it was because he was sexually frustrated and he needed the visual stimulation to take care of his business. I told him i would do anything to help and he said ok and he also said that he would stop when i told him that i felt hurt and ugly and like he had cheated on me. I didnt think it was an addiction for him until just yesterday, i had an overwhelming feeling that he was still doing it so i went snooping which i know is bad but it turned up that he had created a new email address in order to sign up for porn and hide it from me. It has become really stressful on me already, i couldnt sleep last night because i couldnt stop thinking about it, and i want to say something, but i know that i am wrong for snooping in his email. I dont know what to do, or how to confront him, and the worst part is that i am pregnant right now with his and my first child, but my second, and i cannot see myself going through the stress of raising two children all alone. part of me wants to just leave, but i dont think i can handle two kids on my own, please help, any advice would be very helpful

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2005 was the worst yet as porn lead to an affair and then adultery. our relationship was dead after both my daughters married my husband begin seeking ego strokes thru chat rooms these young girls would tell him anything he wanted to hear because they were professionals but the had him hoodwinked into thinking they really card about him. he told them everything about our personal like including home address and phone number. being older and married for so many years i was totally blindsided .I would ask him every so often if he was having trouble with porn again and he lied bold face he was not. and all the time he was looking at porn during his lunch hour at work and chattting with web cam girls at home. He even paid for personal private time with these girls by money order so I wouldn't find out because I take care of the bills . So for seven months he hid this from me and became emotionally attached to two girls 30 years younger same ages as his daughters. I'm not sure yet that he understands these were whores and money was the name of the game. He went so far as to visit them in their own counrty on the other side of the ocean as he made up a business trip that would get him to where they lived. When the money stopped they were not as interested in him even though he said he wouldn't have had sex with them because they were so young. he had already had sex with them over the webcam. his brain got so thumbled up he couldn't even think straight. We are trying to work thing out. I demanded all communication be stopped with these girls and it took him a month to really break it off. They not only used the webcam service but contacted him regularly the msn msg plus his own privete email acct. the reason he gave me for falling into porn was that he didn't want me anymore because my body had changed and i wasn't his fantasy women anymore. too fat not attractive to him at all no desire. I have recently found out that this thinking started after I gained a lot of weight with my firstborn 25years ago. I worked and starved it off only to get pregnant again and all the weight returned. Just haven't been able to get it off over the years. So he got mad at me and God that he ended up with a frumpy wife and he now wanted someone new now that the girls were out of the house. love .... don't know ...we are trying to start all over again. he is getting help but it is a slow process. I'm not doing to well as my weight is still going to be a problem unless he sees me differently i can't compete with porn or webcams :cry:

These are just a few of hundreds of posts on our discussion board at      www.wisechoice.net/discuss

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